Rabbi Bentzion Shafier from theShmuz.com

Rabbi Bentzion Shafier from theShmuz.com

22 videos Last updated on May 11, 2020
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1 Guilt Anonymous and Teshuva (Yom Kippur Shmuz) 5777 47:15

Guilt Anonymous and Teshuva (Yom Kippur Shmuz) 5777

Rabbi Benzion Shafier speaks about how to balance the destructive guilt with real Teshuvah (based on a talk he recorded specially for the GYE community).
2 Rabbi Shafier GYE Promo 02:52

Rabbi Shafier GYE Promo

Rabbi Benzion Shafier recorded this special message of GYE's annual High-Holiday campaign.
3 Rabbi Shafier speaks about GYE 03:11

Rabbi Shafier speaks about GYE

Rabbi Shafier explains how GYE can help you
4 #01 Video - Dealing With Failure 04:44

#01 Video - Dealing With Failure

David Hamelech (King David), when he was king of Israel, said to Hashem bechanani (test me). And Hashem said I will test you, but it's going to be an incredibly difficult test. The test in fact was in the area of arayos (illicit relations). The Navi (Prophets) tells us that David told his guard t...
5 #02 Video - The SIT Diet 05:30

#02 Video - The SIT Diet

When my wife had our first child, she went on the SIT Diet. Not everyone knows what this diet is, but basically it's quite simple. You take a large wedge of chocolate cake in this hand, you take a diet coke in the other hand, you say the words I'm so fat, I'm so fat, I'm so fat, you consume the e...
6 #03 Video - A Diamond With a Flaw 03:16

#03 Video - A Diamond With a Flaw

I want you to imagine that in my hands I'm holding two diamonds. In my right hand is a 10 carat beautiful diamond with a slight flaw, but a beautiful, beautiful diamond. In my left hand is a 10 carat diamond, but absolutely flawless, internally, externally, a perfect diamond. If I would have aske...
7 #04 Video - Knowing How to Count 03:43

#04 Video - Knowing How to Count

I have a personal guarantee that I'd like to share with you. If you are working on any area in life, be it anger, be it arrogance, be it davening (praying) with kavanah (concentration), be it tayvah (lust), I guarantee that you're going to fall down many times. You'll set goals and you'll fail; y...
8 #05 Video - Don't Think About a Pink Elephant 03:39

#05 Video - Don't Think About a Pink Elephant

Lo sasuru acharei eineichem (do not veer after your eyes). The Gemara (Talmud) tells us what this means is if a man looks at a woman for the person of being neheneh (enjoying) in a sexual manner, he violates a lo sa'asei (negative commandment) in the Torah. It's very important to understand what ...
9 #06 Video - Using Powerful Techniques 03:21

#06 Video - Using Powerful Techniques

A fellow once called me up that he was working with a young man who had an irrepressible desire for a particular woman, a married woman. He couldn't help it, he constantly would see her, wherever it may be, and he couldn't stop thinking about her. He couldn't get her out of his mind. He was a fru...
10 #07 Video - Two Parts to Man's Soul 03:58

#07 Video - Two Parts to Man's Soul

If you want to work on desire, you have to fundamentally understand yourself. And to do that you have to understand the way your Creator fashioned you and formed you. The Chovos Halevavos in Sha'ar Avodas Elokim explains that when Hashem made the human He took two diverse parts and put them toget...
11 #08 Video - How to Lose Like a Winner 02:25

#08 Video - How to Lose Like a Winner

Every coach is focused on how to win. Every athlete always focuses on how do I win the battle, how do I win the fight. I'd like to teach you how to lose. And the way you lose is you lose like a winner. What that means in plain, simple language is that I don't care how dedicated you are, I don't c...
12 #09 Video - Learning How to Take a Punch 03:59

#09 Video - Learning How to Take a Punch

When I was a young man I was learning in blatt shiur (Talmud lecture) and the Rosh Yeshiva zatzal encouraged us greatly to create mussar vaadim. What's a mussar va'ad? A mussar va'ad is a small group of young men, typically the same age, and each week one fellow would present. It would be a chidd...
13 #10 Video - Getting Up Off the Floor 03:44

#10 Video - Getting Up Off the Floor

Coaches have a criterion to determine whether a girl has what it takes to be a world champion. And what they say is that criterion is how many times is a young woman willing to fall on the ice and get back up again.
14 #11 Video - For Married Men 01:59

#11 Video - For Married Men

If you're married, and you're struggling with this issue, there is a technique that is very beneficial and is to be encouraged. You should have an image of your wife in your mind in a position that you consider desirous, and have that image in your mind ready and available.
15 #12 Video - The One Gemara You Don't Know 03:16

#12 Video - The One Gemara You Don't Know

There is one Gemara that the Soton (Satan) absolutely, completely, totally does not want you to know. It's a Gemara in Makos 23b that says the following: "Kol hayosheiv velo avar aveirah," any person who didn't commit a sin, "nosnim lo sechar," they give him reward, "k'oseh mitzvah,” as if he did...
16 #13 Video - Your Best Friend 04:47

#13 Video - Your Best Friend

The Gemara (Talmud) in Sukkah tells us "l'asid lavo,” at the end of days, Hakadosh Baruch Hu (The Holy One, blessed be He) will take the yetzer hara (evil inclination), will take the Soton (Satan), "v'shachto," Hashem will kill him, "befnei hatzadikim ub'fnei haresha'im," in front of the righteou...
17 #14 Video - Voices In Your Head 04:20

#14 Video - Voices In Your Head

Here's a question that requires understanding. If you ever get to a point where you're really serious about working on yourself, really serious about conquering desire, you'll start noticing some funny things. It's almost like there are forces working against you. And the reality is that that is ...
18 #15 Video - The First Step - I Am Powerless 02:37

#15 Video - The First Step - I Am Powerless

If you get a chance to read Alcoholics Anonymous' Big Book, you'll find the first of the 12 Steps clearly described there: To recognize that I am powerless. To give myself over to my higher power, because I am powerless to stop this behavior.
19 #16 Video - Dumb Deer 03:16

#16 Video - Dumb Deer

When I would drive with my children, I would often point out interesting things along the side of the road to them. And often I'd be observing things to point out to them. We were driving at dusk, sort of twilight one night, and up ahead I saw a deer. And I was just about to say to my children lo...
20 #17 Video - A Victory With A But 04:37

#17 Video - A Victory With A But

Hashem said to Avraham "lech lecha mei'artzecha mimoladetecha, mibeis avicha," leave your birthplace. And Avraham leaves the place of his birth, he goes to Eretz Cana'an. No sooner does he get there then there's a famine, specifically in the land. It was a test, a test to see if Avraham will ques...
21 #18 Video - But I Caused This Mess 07:02

#18 Video - But I Caused This Mess

Every once in a while you may say to yourself how could I possibly face Hashem when I've created such a deep pit? And even more than that, how could you possibly tell me that I'm given reward for controlling myself when I created this desire. When I was younger I didn't have it. If I didn't read ...
22 #19 Video - Tricks of the Soton 04:59

#19 Video - Tricks of the Soton

We, who were brought up in Western Civilization, with modern thought, with the scientific method, are very reluctant and very uncomfortable with certain concepts. One of those concepts is that there are forces in the world that Hashem created with specific purposes. One of those forces is a malac...
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