Videos tagged 'Rabbi Bentzion Shafier'
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#01 Video - Dealing With Failure
David Hamelech (King David), when he was king of Israel, said to Hashem bechanani (test me). And Hashem said I will test you, but it's going to be an incredibly difficult test. The test in fact was in the area of arayos (illicit relations). The Navi (Prophets) tells us that David told his guard t...
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#02 Video - The SIT Diet
When my wife had our first child, she went on the SIT Diet. Not everyone knows what this diet is, but basically it's quite simple. You take a large wedge of chocolate cake in this hand, you take a diet coke in the other hand, you say the words I'm so fat, I'm so fat, I'm so fat, you consume the e...
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#03 Video - A Diamond With a Flaw
I want you to imagine that in my hands I'm holding two diamonds. In my right hand is a 10 carat beautiful diamond with a slight flaw, but a beautiful, beautiful diamond. In my left hand is a 10 carat diamond, but absolutely flawless, internally, externally, a perfect diamond. If I would have aske...
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#04 Video - Knowing How to Count
I have a personal guarantee that I'd like to share with you. If you are working on any area in life, be it anger, be it arrogance, be it davening (praying) with kavanah (concentration), be it tayvah (lust), I guarantee that you're going to fall down many times. You'll set goals and you'll fail; y...
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#05 Video - Don't Think About a Pink Elephant
Lo sasuru acharei eineichem (do not veer after your eyes). The Gemara (Talmud) tells us what this means is if a man looks at a woman for the person of being neheneh (enjoying) in a sexual manner, he violates a lo sa'asei (negative commandment) in the Torah. It's very important to understand what ...
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#06 Video - Using Powerful Techniques
A fellow once called me up that he was working with a young man who had an irrepressible desire for a particular woman, a married woman. He couldn't help it, he constantly would see her, wherever it may be, and he couldn't stop thinking about her. He couldn't get her out of his mind. He was a fru...
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#07 Video - Two Parts to Man's Soul
If you want to work on desire, you have to fundamentally understand yourself. And to do that you have to understand the way your Creator fashioned you and formed you. The Chovos Halevavos in Sha'ar Avodas Elokim explains that when Hashem made the human He took two diverse parts and put them toget...
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#08 Video - How to Lose Like a Winner
Every coach is focused on how to win. Every athlete always focuses on how do I win the battle, how do I win the fight. I'd like to teach you how to lose. And the way you lose is you lose like a winner. What that means in plain, simple language is that I don't care how dedicated you are, I don't c...
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#09 Video - Learning How to Take a Punch
When I was a young man I was learning in blatt shiur (Talmud lecture) and the Rosh Yeshiva zatzal encouraged us greatly to create mussar vaadim. What's a mussar va'ad? A mussar va'ad is a small group of young men, typically the same age, and each week one fellow would present. It would be a chidd...
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#10 Video - Getting Up Off the Floor
Coaches have a criterion to determine whether a girl has what it takes to be a world champion. And what they say is that criterion is how many times is a young woman willing to fall on the ice and get back up again.
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#11 Video - For Married Men
If you're married, and you're struggling with this issue, there is a technique that is very beneficial and is to be encouraged. You should have an image of your wife in your mind in a position that you consider desirous, and have that image in your mind ready and available.
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#12 Video - The One Gemara You Don't Know
There is one Gemara that the Soton (Satan) absolutely, completely, totally does not want you to know. It's a Gemara in Makos 23b that says the following: "Kol hayosheiv velo avar aveirah," any person who didn't commit a sin, "nosnim lo sechar," they give him reward, "k'oseh mitzvah,” as if he did...
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#13 Video - Your Best Friend
The Gemara (Talmud) in Sukkah tells us "l'asid lavo,” at the end of days, Hakadosh Baruch Hu (The Holy One, blessed be He) will take the yetzer hara (evil inclination), will take the Soton (Satan), "v'shachto," Hashem will kill him, "befnei hatzadikim ub'fnei haresha'im," in front of the righteou...
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#14 Video - Voices In Your Head
Here's a question that requires understanding. If you ever get to a point where you're really serious about working on yourself, really serious about conquering desire, you'll start noticing some funny things. It's almost like there are forces working against you. And the reality is that that is ...
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#15 Video - The First Step - I Am Powerless
If you get a chance to read Alcoholics Anonymous' Big Book, you'll find the first of the 12 Steps clearly described there: To recognize that I am powerless. To give myself over to my higher power, because I am powerless to stop this behavior.
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#16 Video - Dumb Deer
When I would drive with my children, I would often point out interesting things along the side of the road to them. And often I'd be observing things to point out to them. We were driving at dusk, sort of twilight one night, and up ahead I saw a deer. And I was just about to say to my children lo...
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#17 Video - A Victory With A But
Hashem said to Avraham "lech lecha mei'artzecha mimoladetecha, mibeis avicha," leave your birthplace. And Avraham leaves the place of his birth, he goes to Eretz Cana'an. No sooner does he get there then there's a famine, specifically in the land. It was a test, a test to see if Avraham will ques...
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#18 Video - But I Caused This Mess
Every once in a while you may say to yourself how could I possibly face Hashem when I've created such a deep pit? And even more than that, how could you possibly tell me that I'm given reward for controlling myself when I created this desire. When I was younger I didn't have it. If I didn't read ...
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#19 Video - Tricks of the Soton
We, who were brought up in Western Civilization, with modern thought, with the scientific method, are very reluctant and very uncomfortable with certain concepts. One of those concepts is that there are forces in the world that Hashem created with specific purposes. One of those forces is a malac...
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Guilt Anonymous and Teshuva (Yom Kippur Shmuz) 5777
Rabbi Benzion Shafier speaks about how to balance the destructive guilt with real Teshuvah (based on a talk he recorded specially for the GYE community).
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GYE Chizuk Broadcast #236
Is Teshuvah Possible?: Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier discusses where we learn that Hashem will definitely accept our teshuvah.
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GYE Chizuk Broadcast #254
"The Brown Bear and I": Rabbi Shafier elucidates on how we all have a bear inside of us, but we also have something that bear's don't have.
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Holy Pleasures
If you think that the path to spirituality is sitting upon a mountain top subsisting on only bread and water, you’d be wrong. Hashem has filled this world with enjoyment-He wants us to find satisfaction in His creation. This Shmuz makes the case for experiencing the joys of this world, and will s...
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Marriage Transformation Webinar - Rabbi Shafier
Transform your marriage - even if your spouse refuses to change!
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Not Normal Times
We hear about so many crazy stories. We live in crazy times. So if you too are struggling, take heart. You are not alone.
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Rabbi Shafier GYE Promo
Rabbi Benzion Shafier recorded this special message of GYE's annual High-Holiday campaign.
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Rabbi Shafier speaks about GYE
Rabbi Shafier explains how GYE can help you